After resting for a bit at the hotel, Zhifang and I decided it was time to go out and grab some supper. Since I knew this would be our last supper before I had to go, I suggested to Zhifang that we go somewhere nice together. We walked for a short while, and she decided on a restaurant not far from the hotel. It turns out, this was the same restaurant where I had eaten my first supper in Guangzhou. This seemed like the perfect place to have supper. Supper was yet again, very very good. I don't think I have ever had a complaint about any of the food that I have eaten in China. We had a big supper. I think Zhifang has learned from her mother about making sure people have enought to eat. It is a family thing I am certain. I do not complain though.

After we ate, we went for a short walk around the area. We looked in at a few shops, stared at some other lao wai, and just had a really nice walk. The evening was perfect for going for a walk. Not too hot, and not too cold. We returned to the hotel around 10:30, and started the dreaded task of packing. I arrived with two suitcases, as well as a carry on bag, and my laptop computer. Zhifang took all of my clothes, and somehow managed to pack them all into one suitcase. She then started the not so fun task of trying to pack everything I had bought into the smaller suitcase, and my carry on bad. To my amazement, she was able to accomplish this task without too much trouble. I was really impressed. Since it was getting late, and we had to be up very early, we headed off to sleep.

4AM comes early. It does not matter if you are in Canada, or China, it still comes early. This was the time we had to wake up, so I could get to the airport. We each grabbed a shower, and Zhifang made me a tea, and we ate some pastries that she had bought yesterday. Neither of us wanted to be awake, especially knowing that I was leaving now. I really was not happy about this. Just before 5, we checked out of the hotel, and caught a cab for the Guangzhou airport. The cab ride was a lot quicker than Zhifang had anticipated, and we were there in half an hour. She had been expecting over an hour. When we arrived, we looked around until we could find Japan Airlines. Apparently, they did not open the ticket booth until 7 AM, and it is only 5:30 now. No problem. I am in Guangzhou with the person that I love, so it really wasn't a big deal. We just lounged around...actually, I lounged around while Zhifang slept on my arm. At 7 I was able to get my ticket for the first leg of my trip to Tokyo. We walked around for a bit, and I snapped off some pictures of her and the airport. We decided that I would go through security at 8, since my flight left around 9...this would give plenty of time to clear security.

8 came, and it was time. This was the time that we both were not looking forward to. I held Zhifang close, and just could not hold back the tears anymore. I am not one to cry...ever. But this situation was really breaking my heart. I have got to meet, and marry the most wonderful girl in the world, and now I have to leave her for a very long time. It is not like I am only going away for a couple days. I do not have an exact date of my return to her. All I know, is it is not soon enough. I was so sad that I had to leave. When I looked at her, I saw she was crying too. I don't know why, but at that moment, we both started to laugh. Maybe because in this moment, we both knew exactly what the other was feeling. We walked to where I had to go my own way. I could just not go through airport security with her standing there. I was already having a hard time...I did not need it to be even harder. So I asked Zhifang to please leave, and go home. I could not go in until she was gone. She left, and this made it even harder for me. I ended up going through the airport with tears in my eyes anyways. And to be honest, there are tears in my eyes as I write this down. The memory is just way too fresh.

The rest of the day was just spent traveling back to Canada. No problems in Tokyo, and on to Toronto. I cleared Canadian customs without a hitch, and was picked up by my sister, who had been kind enough to let me park my car at her place. After showing her family some of my pictures, I headed off to see Chong. He and I were going out for dumplings. Seems that he was a big part of helping me get this trip off the ground, and we were eating dumplings then...so why not end it on the same note. I went to his place afterward, and I showed him my pictures as well.

After the last pictures I took of Zhifang in Guangzhou, I decided that I was not going to take any more pictures of my trip. No pictures of Tokyo, and none getting back to Canada. This is not a happy time for me, so why have memories of that part of the trip? I wanted my last pictures of this trip to be about Zhifang...my lao po. So now I am home, and trying to figure out when I will go back again. I had planned my return trip to be after summer...but I just can't bear to not see Zhifang for that long. I suspect I will be back to China in the next few months. This is so much harder than I imagined it would be.

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. In 679, they instituted the "Protectorate of Annam (Pacified South)"; the term then came to be used for tile country itself. The Tang dynasty extended their administrative network to cover villages and mountainous regions; the annual tribute to the Court and the various taxes, cover and duties were increased. However agriculture and handicrafts in particular, continued to develop, as well as land, river and maritime communications. The three doctrines -Confucianism, Taoism, and notably Buddhism - spread nationwide, without doing away with local beliefs. The veneration of local genies, often patriots or founders of villages, remained widespread. In order to stifle deep-rooted national sentiment, the Chinese imperialists used geomancy in an attempt to drain the "veins of the dragon" running through Vietnamese soi resulting in resistance from the people. In society, more and more of those obtaining high positions in the administration through education or bribery were those who obtained important domains.

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At the beginning of the Bronze Age, the Viet tribe groups had settled down in the North and in the north of Central Vietnam. There were about 15 groups of Lac Viet tribesmen living mainly in the northern highland and delta and a dozen Au Viet groups of tribesmen living in Viet Bac, the northern region of old Vietnam.

Van Lang (2876 BC 258 BC)
At that time, the two ethnic tribes of the Lac Viet and Au Viet lived together in many areas with other inhabitants. Due to the increasing need to control floods, fight against invaders, and exchange culture and economy, these tribes living near each other tended to gather together and integrate into a larger mixed group. Among these Lac Viet tribes was the Van Lang, which was the most powerful tribe. The leader of this tribe joined all the Lac Viet tribes together to found Van Lang Nation, addressing himself as King Hung. The next generations followed in their fathers footsteps and kept this appellation. Based on historical documents, researchers correlatively delineated the location of Van Lang Nation to the present day regions of North and north of Central Vietnam, as well as the south of present-day Kwangsi (China). The Van Lang Nation approximately lasted from the beginning of the first millennium B.C. to the 3rd century B.C.

Au Lac (257 BC 207 BC)
In 221 BC, Qin Shihuangdi (Tan Thuy Hoang), King of Qin (China), invaded the land of the Viet tribes. Thuc Phan, the leader of the alliance of Au-Viet tribes was respected as the chief of the resistance war against the Tan enemy that later, in 208 BC, was forced to withdraw. With his imposing power, Thuc Phan nominated himself as King An Duong Vuong and founded Au Lac Nation with groups of Lac Viet and Au Viet tribes. In 207 BC, Trieu Da, King of Nam Viet (China), invaded Au Lac country. The resistance of An Duong Vuong failed soon after this invasion. As a result, the northern feudalist took turns dominating the country over the next seven centuries, establishing their harsh regime in the country and dividing the country into administrative regions and districts with unfamiliar names. However, the countrys name of Au Lac could not be erased from the peoples minds in their everyday life.

Van Xuan (544-602)
In the spring of 542, Ly Bi rose up in arms and swept away the Chinese administration, liberating the territory. He declared himself King of Van Xuan Kingdom in February 544, acknowledging the national superiority complex of the independent spirits to live in eternal peace. However, the existence of Ly Bis administration was very brief. He was defeated by the Chinese imperial army, and the country returned to feudal Chinese domination again in 602. The name Van Xuan was restored only after the victory over the Han army at the Bach Dang River led by General Ngo Quyen in 938. This victory marked the end of the Chinese domination period in Vietnam.

Dai Co Viet (968 1054)
In 968, Dinh Bo Linh defeated the twelve lords and unified the country. He declared himself King and named the country Dai Co Viet. This name remained throughout the Dinh Dynasty (968-980), Pre-Le Dynasty (980-1009) and the beginning of Ly Dynasty (1010-1225).

Dai Viet (1054 1802)
In 1054, a flaming bright star appeared in the sky for many days, which was considered a good omen. As a result, the King Ly changed the name of the country to Dai Viet. This name remained until the end of Tran Dynasty (1126 - 1400). The name Dai Viet remained under the Le Dynasty (1428-1788) and the Tay Son Dynasty (1788-1802).

Dai Ngu (1400 1406)
In March 1400, Ho Quy Ly usurped the throne of King Tran Thieu De, founded the Ho Dynasty and changed the countrys name to Dai Ngu, meaning peace in the ancient language. This name only lasted for very short time, until April 1407, when the Ming enemy invaded Dai Ngu and defeated the Ho Dynasty (1400- 1407).
After 10 years of resistance against the Ming occupation (1418-1427), Le Loi had achieved a victorious triumph. In 1428, Le Loi declared himself King of Le Dynasty and changed the name of the country back to Dai Viet. At this time, the territory of Vietnam had expanded to the region of present-day Hue.

Viet Nam
In 1802, Nguyen Anh claimed his coronation to become the first King Nguyen, starting the Nguyen dynasty and changing the countrys name to Viet Nam. This name was officially recognized in many diplomatic missions in 1804. However, the words "Viet Nam" had already appeared very early in history. In the 14th century, there was a book of code entitled "Viet Nam the Chi", edited by Doctor Ho Tong Thoc. In the book by scholar Nguyen Trai entitled "Du Dia Chi" at the beginning of 15th century; the words "Viet Nam" were repeated several times. Doctor Trinh Nguyen Binh Khiem (1491-1585) had written on the first page of his work "Trinh Tien Sinh Quoc Ngu" the following: "... Viet Nam have constructed its foundation..." The words "Viet Nam" were also found in some carved stelae of the 16th - 17th century in Bao Lam Pagoda, Haiphong (1558), in Cam Lo Pagoda, Ha Tay (1590), in Phuc Thanh Pagoda, Bac Ninh (1664), etc. In particular, in the first sentence on the stele Thuy Mon Dinh (1670) at the landmark on the border at Lang Son, it was written: "This is the gateway of Viet Nam that guards the northern frontiers..." In terms of meaning, there are many theories that prove the words "Viet Nam" are created by combining two racial and geographic elements, which is understood as "Viet people from the south". During the reign of King Minh Mang (1820-1840), the name of the country was changed to Dai Nam, but Viet Nam was still widely used in many literary works, civil business affairs, and social relations.
Following the triumph of the August Revolution on August 19th 1945, which had entirely swept away Vietnamese feudal and French colonial oppression and began a new era in the country, President Ho Chi Minh proclaimed the nations independence and the national name Democratic Republic of Vietnam was born on September 2nd 1945. Although Vietnam suffered from war and separation in the following 30 years, the sacred words "Viet Nam" were very popularly used from the North to the South, and were deeply imprinted in the hearts of the Vietnamese people.
Following the liberation of Southern Vietnam on April 30 1975, the entire country of Vietnam was completely unified. In the first meeting of the National Assembly of the Unified Vietnam on July 2nd 1976, the assembly decided to name the country The Socialist Republic of Vietnam. The constitution of 1980, and 1992, continued its affirmation of the countrys official name, legally and actually.

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Outside we went, to try to find her friend that was giving us a ride to the hotel. It is a very strange set up where the cars pick up passengers. Basically, you have two lanes. One seemed to be the parking/pick up lane, and the other was the park and wait for a spot to open up in the parking/pick up lane. I do believe lane 2 was supposed to be a travel lane. They could really use a few more lanes. And everyone is beeping their horns...but for why, i don't know, because everyone, while beeping their own horn, seem to be ignoring the other horns.

Driving into downtown was unique. i watched a taxi drive through a red. We were driving with our high beams on, while a car on the other side coming towrards us had no lights on at all. If you don't like the lane you are in, change without signalling...or just go to the opposing side of the road. From what little I have seen of the driving, everyone here seems far more patient. At home, tempers would have flared quickly.

Zhifang did not let go of me the entire time we were in the car. She held my hand, rubbed the hair on my arms...apparently this is a fascinating thing, and sat as close as possible to me. I did not mind this at all. It helped ease the nervousness. When we get together tomorrow, we will not be as nervous, because we have already seen each other.

Zhifang had reserved me a room at the Saint Martin hotel. She got a laugh from that. 188 yuan a night, so that doesn't seem bad. The room is small, but it is perfect for my needs. It is very clean. The room consists of a bed, a TV mounted on the wall, and a very small bathroom. The toilet is behind the shower curtain...on the same side as the shower. I am not sure how I am supposed to have a shower without getting the toilet all wet. Zhifang gave me a necklace with some sort of Chinese pendant on it. If it had been green, I would say it was jade...but it is brown. Anyone have thoughts? I got my stuff in the room, and Zhifang and her friend had to leave. Zhifang gave me a hug and a quick kiss, before heading off for the night. She said she would be back at 8 in the morning. I am looking forward to our first day together.

April 1 2:00 AM

Got about an hour sleep. Maybe it was the constant naps on the plane. Maybe it is the rock hard bed. Who knows. I can't get a wireless internet signal. Apparently I need a cable to plug in here, and I don't have one. So until I can get a wireless signal, I will just keep writing here, until I get access. So, I can't get online to chat with people that I know will be awake back in North America. I decided to go for a small walk down the street. First reaction is, this city has a smell. Must be the pollution. Got a few strange looks from people. Probly because they aren't used to seeing a 6 foot bald guy at 2AM walking down the street. I went a few blocks, and decided to walk back to the hotel. When I got out front, there were 4 girls geting into a taxi. The invited me to go along with them. HAHAHA. I just shook my head no. So I was just standing outside, and a security guard came along, and was trying to figure out what I was up to. With the help of a pocket book translator that I borrow from CHong, i tried to find where there was a coffee shop. He pointed inside the hotel, but using body language, told me I would have to go to sleep before I could get a coffee. I guess that means the place is closed. So I decided to come back up to the room, and watch some tv, and hope I get a little more sleep.

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Music Awards.
Sept. 18: Britney is ordered by judge to submit to random drug tests; the judge concluded that she had engaged in “habitual, frequent, and continuous use of controlled substances and alcohol.” She also must attend parent counseling classes
Oct. 1: Britney is ordered by judge to give up custody of her kids, at least temporarily, for failure to comply with court orders.
Oct. 15: Britney turns herself in to be booked on charges arising out of the Aug. 6 fender bender.
Oct.17: Britney’s visitation rights are suspended by court commissioner until she complies with court orders, including answering phone calls from court-appointed monitor.
Oct. 20: Britney regains rights to visitation with her children and must be accompanied by court-ordered monitor.
Oct. 25: Britney’s hit-and-run misdemeanor charge related to Aug. 6 incident is dismissed, but she pleads not guilty to driving without valid CA driver’s license.
Oct. 29: Britney’s former manager, Johnny Wright, sues for alleged unpaid commission in excess of $15,000.
Nov. 9: Britney is accused of failing to respond to eight out of 14 drug test requests. As part of the Sept. 19 order, Britney must submit to twice-weekly drug tests and is required of providing a urine sample within six hours of being called.
Nov. 13: Britney’s album, Blackout, is released and sells almost 300,000 copies in first week.
Nov. 24: Britney is caught driving through Los Angeles stop signs.
Dec. 7: Britney is caught on camera taking a lighter without paying.
Dec. 8: Britney is caught on camera running more Los Angeles stop signs.
Dec. 11: Britney’s pet store of choice, Pets of Bel Air, is accused of buying puppies from puppy mills.
Dec. 12: Britney fails to show up at her deposition in her custody case.
Dec. 18: Britney is ordered to appear for deposition in her custody case in January. Meanwhile, a Florida court clerk enters default against Britney for failing to respond to the lawsuit for alleged unpaid commissions filed by Johnny Wright in October.
2008
Jan. 15: Complaint filed against Dr. Phil, arising out of his hospital visit with Britney.
Jan. 21: Britney attends deposition for approximately 2.5 hours.
Jan. 23: Britney unsuccessfully seeks to modify court’s no-visitation order. Britney’s lawyers withdraw motion to be relieved as counsel, previously scheduled for Feb. 4.
Jan. 31: Britney is placed on another 5150 hold, this time at UCLA Medical Center.
Feb. 1: (a) Britney’s dad and independent lawyer are appointed as conservators of her estate; and (b) Court issues temporary restraining order against Sam Lutfi, prohibiting him from getting near Britney.
Feb. 3: Britney’s 5150 hold is extended by 14 days.
Feb. 4: (a) After a court challenge, Brit’s dad and independent attorney remain conservators of her estate at least until Feb. 14; and (b) Amid alleged concerns that Sam Lutfi contacted Britney by telephone, the court confirmed that Lutfi is not permitted to contact Britney, even by telephone or email.
Feb. 6: (a) UCLA releases Britney from the extended 5150 hold; (b) Maria Shriver introduces herself to Britney; and (c) Britney’s parents release statement to press.
Feb. 7: Attorneys appear in court regarding Britney; information remains under seal.
Feb. 13: Court continues Britney’s family law attorneys’ request to be removed as counsel until Feb. 19.
Feb. 14: (a) Court extends conservatorship until March 10; (b) Bryan Spears and attorney named co-trustees of Britney’s trust; (c) Britney is ordered to undergo a 730 evaluation; and (d) an attorney files a notice to remove Britney’s legal troubles to federal court.
Feb. 19: (a) Stacy Philips becomes Britney’s new attorney; (b) court denies request for gag order; and (c) parties unable to reach an agreement to permit Britney to resume visitation with kids.
Feb. 20: Federal court issues tentative order to deny the notice of removal previously filed by attorney Jon Eardley and sets deadline for Eardley to convince the court to change its mind.
Feb. 21: Sam Lutfi is finally served with restraining order, and court issues extension of order until March 17.
Feb.

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3-5-09
 
Before I begin, please read the following article from the October issue of the Beijing Review:
 
Here’s the link to the article: http://www.bjreview.com.cn/nation/txt/2008-10/21/content_157896_2.htm
 
Rise and Shine
In an effort to improve their health, time to rest is now being enshrined into regulation for Chinese students.
 
By Feng Jianhua
Beijing Review
 
Sleep is a serious business for Chinas education authorities, which have been on a quest to ensure the nations students get enough of it.
 
In their latest measure, in early September 2008, the Ministry of Education dictated the optimum level of sleep for primary, junior middle school and senior middle school students at 10, nine and eight hours respectively.
 
In order to ensure students find time to sleep, the ministry also regulates the amount of homework students are given. According to the ministry, teachers should give no homework to students in grade one and two of primary school, and in higher grades they should spend no more than 60 minutes on it every day. For students in junior middle school the limit is 90 minutes. The ministry also dictates that teachers are not allowed to occupy students spare time, including weekends and vacations, with extra classes.
 
As early as in 1994, the National Educational Committee (the predecessor of the Ministry of Education) issued a document to guarantee sleep for students. It stated that primary students should enjoy more than nine hours of sleep, junior middle school students nine hours and senior middle school students eight hours.
 
On June 1, 2007, the revised Law On the Protection of Minors stated that schools and parents must ensure that primary and secondary school students get enough sleep. Since then, the Chinese education authorities and a number of local government authorities have repeatedly stressed the importance of sleep for students.
 
Homework burden
 
Staying up to write homework is common for primary and secondary school students in China. In November 2007, the Education Bureau of Guangzhou City, in south Chinas Guangdong Province, conducted a survey on the burden of homework and the sleeping patterns of students in the city. The results showed that only 6 percent of students in grade three of high school enjoyed eight sleep hours and 29 percent of students slept less than six hours a day.
 
In early September 2008, website sina.com conducted a survey on the same topic. Among 2,371 students who took part in this survey, more than 40 percent said they slept between six and seven hours a night, 20 percent less than six hours, and 40 percent students between eight and 10 hours.
 
Comparisons of the average sleeping time of the U.S. and Chinese students showed that Chinese students sleep half an hour later than American students and get up half an hour earlier. Chinese students also demonstrate more sleep problems such as having difficulties in falling in sleep and shallow sleep.
 
A survey conducted by China Youth Children Research Center in the middle of February 2005 covered 2,498 students in six large cities including Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Changchun in north Chinas Jilin Province, Lanzhou in west Chinas Gansu Province and Chengdu in southwest Chinas Sichuan Province. Two thirds of primary students and three fourths of middle school students showed sleeping deficiencies and 52.7 percent revealed that the first thing they want to do in their spare time is sleep.
 
The survey also showed that nearly 65 percent of students dont wake up naturally but were woken by alarm clocks, and 35 percent of primary students and 59 secondary school students said they always felt tired.
 
According to Zhang Qingbin, Director of the Psychological Counseling and Therapy Center of Shijiazhuang City, capital of north Chinas Hebei Province, there are many reasons for sleep deficiency, mostly connected to the pressure to succeed. Besides homework many students also receive extra assignments from their parents, eager to see their children do well in school.
 
According to Zhang Jinsong, a professor at Shanghai Xinhua Hospital, children of school age are at a crucial period to form and establish sleeping habits. A deficiency of sleep could lead to sub-clinical conditions and cause a variety of psychological and physical problems, which might hamper the natural development of recognition functions.
 
Shen Xiaoming, Director of the Shanghai Municipal Education Commission, said that children with sleep deficiency and other sleep problems are likely to find it difficult to adapt to school and are at risk of developing dangerous adolescent behavior such as depression, suicide, smoking and drug abuse.
 
Yu Jianwei, an official with the National Peoples Congress Internal and Judicial Affairs Department, said that according to a survey, at least 30 million students under the age of 17 have suffered from a variety of emotional and behavioral problems. The number of people under the age of 18 in China is more than 300 million.
 
On April 6, 2007, the Education Bureau of Shenyang City, capital of north Chinas Liaoning Province, issued a document, stating that primary and middle school student should not arrive at school before 7:40 a.m. The document was based on a proposal put forward by Zhang Guiping, a delegate to the National Peoples Congress.
 
Since then, more than 200,000 parents of primary and middle students have bid farewell to 7 a.m. starts.
 
I also have a child who always complains about feeling sleepy and is woken up by an alarm clock. I feel distressed when I see my childs sleepy eyes every day, said Zhang.
 
As a delegate to the National Peoples Congress, Zhang began to research the sleep problems of students. Children want to sleep, but they have no time for that due to homework and other study assignments. They cannot go to bed before 11 p.m. and have to get up at 5 or 6 a.m. Few of them can sleep for seven hours. Sleep deficiency has long been a headache for students, parents and teachers, said Zhang, following his investigation.
 
Liaoning launched an inspection of the enforcement of the Compulsory Education Law on April 2-11, 2007, commissioned by the National Peoples Congress. On April 3, at a symposium held in Shenyang, with participants including provincial leaders, headmasters, teachers and parents, Zhang suggested local government act to make sure students sleep longer.
 
Zhangs proposal gained the attention of local government. On the third day after the proposal, Shenyang Education Bureau issued an official document, asking students to arrive at school no earlier than 7:40 a.m.
 
Top concern
 
Ensuring the health of students is always the first concern for us. Letting students come to school after 7:40 a.m. has changed the management ideas of the school. Now, teachers never scold late students. We have four classes every morning with a 40-minute break for students to enjoy a rest, said Zhang Yan, Headmaster of No.2 Primary School in the Shenhe District of Shenyang City.
 
In addition to Shenyang, many other provinces and cities have introduced measures to ensure primary and secondary school students get more sleep.
 
Most of Shanghais primary and secondary schools previously asked students to arrive before 7:30 a.m. Starting from the new semester in 2008, schools in three districts in Shanghai began asking students to arrive half an hour later, and replaced the original morning reading time with physical activity.
 
Compared with before, I can sleep half an hour more this semester, said Feng Shun, a student from a primary school in Luwan District of Shanghai. I had to get up before 7 a.m. before, and couldnt even have breakfast. Now I can set the alarm at 7:30, which gives me enough time to have breakfast.
 
Shanghai Municipal Education Commissions Director Shen Xiaoming said many factors affect students sleep length including their family and social environment, the present educational system and social customs. It will take the joint effort of families, schools and the government to improve the situation.
 
According to Peng Yongjin, Headmaster of Xiaobeilu Primary School in Guangzhou, schools can do their part by assigning less homework, but families must also create a comfortable environment at home.
 
 
… I found this article in a copy of the Beijing Review, which my friend Dobie stole from the Bao’ an library in October.  She stole it because in the back of the issue there is a page called the Expat’s Eye.  Expatriates are asked to submit articles for the page.  I submitted one in November and didn’t receive a reply until the first week of February.  They printed my article and have yet to pay me.  While I wait for my money, I’ve been using the magazine in my tutoring sessions, namely this article.  It explains a lot.  Now I understand why I have 3 to 5 students who try to sleep through each of my classes.  Now I get it.  And since my classes aren’t graded, I’m tempted to let the fuckers sleep.  I mean, I’m not going to because fuck them – I have the floor – but at least I’m tempted. 
 
Isn’t it absolutely insane that the government gets involved like this and regulates how much homework and sleep students should get?  Absolutely insane.  …. Do you think schools and teachers and – most importantly – parents follow these rules?  Of course not.  There are so many Chinese people under the age of 18 that most of them can’t afford to.  They have to push these kids.  If they get bad grades in primary school, then they won’t get into a good middle school or high school, and if they don’t get into a good university, then forget it – they’re not going to get a good job.  There are 300 million Chinese people under the age of 18 as I write this.  That is larger than the entire U.S. population. 
 
That shit is fucking scary.
 
In America, just about anyone who graduates from high school or gets a G.E.D. can go to college.  But, graduating from college is difficult.  In China, it’s difficult to get into a college, and just about anyone who actually gets in will graduate.  It’s weird how switching that around makes a world of difference in the culture of education.  And how that difference effects the sleeping habits of the youth of this nation.  Furthermore (yeah, I’m using a furthermore here), the educational competitiveness and the sleeping problems are direct results of an over populated society.  I made this point to my Tuesday and Friday tutor class, and they all agreed.  I went around the room asking how many hours of sleep these adults got per night.  Everyone was around seven hours except for one girl, whose English is pretty damn good.  She works for a ring tone company, and she claims to get 9 to 10 hours of sleep every night.
 
Guess how many hours of sleep she got when she was ages 14 to 18?
 
Four.
 
“I only got four every night,” she said.  “I stayed up late doing homework, and then got up early to get to school.”
 
Ring tone girl is 24.  She went to high school when the first round of legislation on sleep went into effect, and she still got fucked over.  Now there are more laws, and I am tutoring an 18 year old senior who goes by the English name Stephanie.  She also claims to get four hours of sleep.  Her two friends say they get 5 to 6.
 
No wonder everyone in this country is so fucking weird.  They’re all sleep deprived, sexually repressed individuals. … I say sexually repressed because there is no such thing as sex education in schools, and every school forbids dating, as do parents, most of whom do not tell their kids about the birds and the bees. … Oh China, when will you ever learn?
 
I consider myself an insomniac.  I only got about four hours of sleep myself last night.  But, I was able to take a three hour nap this afternoon.  These poor bastards don’t have that luxury, except in my class, where they are not graded. … The whole system sucks.
 
When I wake up a student and make him or her sit up, sometimes I joke around and say, Chinese student so tired.
The classes usually laugh or yell,
If they yell yes, then I say, Chinese student does too much homework.
And they yell,
Then Ill say, Chinese student work so hard, need rest.

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China Central Television has apologized for the enormous fire that engulfed the high-rise that was house the Mandarin Oriental Hotel and the Television Cultural Center. Police say the fire started when employees of CCTV hired people to put on a firecracker display that was not in accordance with city rules. The fireworks were lit too close to the complex. One firefighter was killed fighting the blaze and six others were injured. The television station issued a statement the following day that said, "CCTV sincerely apologizes for the damage that the fire caused, and the inconvenience it has brought to the public." The station added that it would do anything to cooperate with related departments in the aftermath. The ban on firecrackers in Beijing was lifted for the week of the New Year festivities, they were put back in place today. Residents with any unused fireworks are being encouraged to swap the pyrotechnics for toys, household items, or gifts at community collection centers.

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China Central Television has apologized for the enormous fire that engulfed the high-rise that was house the Mandarin Oriental Hotel and the Television Cultural Center. Police say the fire started when employees of CCTV hired people to put on a firecracker display that was not in accordance with city rules. The fireworks were lit too close to the complex. One firefighter was killed fighting the blaze and six others were injured. The television station issued a statement the following day that said, "CCTV sincerely apologizes for the damage that the fire caused, and the inconvenience it has brought to the public." The station added that it would do anything to cooperate with related departments in the aftermath. The ban on firecrackers in Beijing was lifted for the week of the New Year festivities, they were put back in place today. Residents with any unused fireworks are being encouraged to swap the pyrotechnics for toys, household items, or gifts at community collection centers.

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China Central Television has apologized for the enormous fire that engulfed the high-rise that was house the Mandarin Oriental Hotel and the Television Cultural Center. Police say the fire started when employees of CCTV hired people to put on a firecracker display that was not in accordance with city rules. The fireworks were lit too close to the complex. One firefighter was killed fighting the blaze and six others were injured. The television station issued a statement the following day that said, "CCTV sincerely apologizes for the damage that the fire caused, and the inconvenience it has brought to the public." The station added that it would do anything to cooperate with related departments in the aftermath. The ban on firecrackers in Beijing was lifted for the week of the New Year festivities, they were put back in place today. Residents with any unused fireworks are being encouraged to swap the pyrotechnics for toys, household items, or gifts at community collection centers.

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Thursday. After a somewhat tasty Asian breakfast, we walked to the North gate of the Forbidden City with our guide Alen. He led us through the the major parts of the old city and was detailed in his explanations and answers to our questions. It was cold throughout the morning, but it eventually warmed up a bit. Because of the holiday, the Chinese were there in droves and wanted to see their own piece of national history. It was most crowded around the throne of the Emporer where you literally had to push and shove your way in order to get a picture or even see it.

After the Forbidden City, we walked across the street to see the world's largest city square in Tiannamen Square. Most of the world remembers this square because of the 1989 student protests that had tanks running through the streets. It is surrounded by government buildings and the mausoleum of Chairman Mao. We then had a very tasty Sichuan province lunch before heading to see the Drum Tower.

The Drum Tower gained some fame this summer for the Olympic Games because an American was stabbed to death there. No stabbings today, but it was very cool as we saw the drummers do a small performance. Our new guide, Robert, did a great job of explaining the city and our next destination, the old city Hutongs. We hopped on some rickshaws and our driver peddled us through the streets of the Hutongs. We stopped at one where our guide explained the meaning of the doorways and thresholds. We then rode out to visit a family who lived in one of the Hutongs where we were treated to some snacks and were able to visit and ask questions. They were very nice and hospitable.

We decided to head back to the hotel for a quick rest before heading out again to see a Kung Fu Show. It was a play/performance and the music was very good. It is hard to describe it, but it was very Chinese and entertaining. Our next stop was the famous Peking Duck dinner with various other menu items.

After a long day, we have crashed back at the hotel. I've went ahead and added my photos to our web album. I'll add to it later with some of Jamie and Kathy's pictures as well as some captions to explain some things, but until then, enjoy and feel free to ask some questions.

Tomorrow, we will be visiting the Ming Tombs and standing on the GREAT WALL OF CHINA. A personal dream will finally be a reality.

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The State Department and US Customs have finally "pulled the trigger" on the PRC import restrictions, which have been pending since 2005. The restrictions will be published in the Federal Register and become effective tomorrow.

This 12th hour decision of the Bush Administration reminds me of the 12th hour decision of the Clinton Administration to impose import restrictions on Classical Greek and Roman artifacts from Italy.

The Chinese restrictions cover archaeological materials representing Chinas cultural heritage from the Paleolithic Period (c. 75,000 B.C.) through the end of the Tang Period (A.D. 907) and irreplaceable monumental sculpture and wall art at least 250 years old.

On first reading, the breadth of the restrictions are extensive, but for most categories, no where near as extensive as China's original request which purportedly sought restrictions on artifacts made as recently as 1911.

As those following the ACCG-IAPN-PNG FOIA litigation against the State Department know, there continues to be some question as to whether China actually asked for coins to be included in the request, or whether bureaucrats within the State Department's "Cultural Heritage Center" added them on their own or at the behest of American archaeologists.

In any event, the following types are now restricted:

3. Coins.

a. Zhou Media of Exchange and Tool-shaped Coins: Early media of exchange include bronze spades, bronze knives, and cowrie shells. During the 6th century BC, flat, simplified, and standardized cast bronze versions of spades appear and these constitute Chinas first coins. Other coin shapes appear in bronze including knives and cowrie shells. These early coins may bear inscriptions.

b. Later, tool-shaped coins began to be replaced by disc-shaped ones which are also cast in bronze and marked with inscriptions. These coins have a central round or square hole.

c. Qin: In the reign of Qin Shi Huangdi (221210 BC) the square-holed round coins become the norm. The new Qin coin is inscribed simply with its weight, expressed in two Chinese characters ban liang. These are written in small seal script and are placed symmetrically to the right and left of the central hole.

d. Han through Sui: Inscriptions become longer, and may indicate that inscribed object is a coin, its value in relation to other coins, or its size. Later, the period of issue, name of the mint, and numerals representing dates may also appear on obverse or reverse. A new script, clerical (lishu), comes into use in the Jin.

e. Tang: The clerical script becomes the norm until 959, when coins with regular script (kaishu) also begin to be issued.

In point of fact it will be exceptionally difficult for any Customs inspector to distinguish a round cash coin with a central hole from the Qin -Tang dynasties from other equally numerous cash coins dating down to 1911. And, of course, given the millions of such coins extant, one might ask why even try?

In any event, I am sure this decision will be an exceptionally hot topic.

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The State Department and US Customs have finally "pulled the trigger" on the PRC import restrictions, which have been pending since 2005. The restrictions will be published in the Federal Register and become effective tomorrow.

This 12th hour decision of the Bush Administration reminds me of the 12th hour decision of the Clinton Administration to impose import restrictions on Classical Greek and Roman artifacts from Italy.

The Chinese restrictions cover archaeological materials representing Chinas cultural heritage from the Paleolithic Period (c. 75,000 B.C.) through the end of the Tang Period (A.D. 907) and irreplaceable monumental sculpture and wall art at least 250 years old.

On first reading, the breadth of the restrictions are extensive, but for most categories, no where near as extensive as China's original request which purportedly sought restrictions on artifacts made as recently as 1911.

As those following the ACCG-IAPN-PNG FOIA litigation against the State Department know, there continues to be some question as to whether China actually asked for coins to be included in the request, or whether bureaucrats within the State Department's "Cultural Heritage Center" added them on their own or at the behest of American archaeologists.

In any event, the following types are now restricted:

3. Coins.

a. Zhou Media of Exchange and Tool-shaped Coins: Early media of exchange include bronze spades, bronze knives, and cowrie shells. During the 6th century BC, flat, simplified, and standardized cast bronze versions of spades appear and these constitute Chinas first coins. Other coin shapes appear in bronze including knives and cowrie shells. These early coins may bear inscriptions.

b. Later, tool-shaped coins began to be replaced by disc-shaped ones which are also cast in bronze and marked with inscriptions. These coins have a central round or square hole.

c. Qin: In the reign of Qin Shi Huangdi (221210 BC) the square-holed round coins become the norm. The new Qin coin is inscribed simply with its weight, expressed in two Chinese characters ban liang. These are written in small seal script and are placed symmetrically to the right and left of the central hole.

d. Han through Sui: Inscriptions become longer, and may indicate that inscribed object is a coin, its value in relation to other coins, or its size. Later, the period of issue, name of the mint, and numerals representing dates may also appear on obverse or reverse. A new script, clerical (lishu), comes into use in the Jin.

e. Tang: The clerical script becomes the norm until 959, when coins with regular script (kaishu) also begin to be issued.

In point of fact it will be exceptionally difficult for any Customs inspector to distinguish a round cash coin with a central hole from the Qin -Tang dynasties from other equally numerous cash coins dating down to 1911. And, of course, given the millions of such coins extant, one might ask why even try?

In any event, I am sure this decision will be an exceptionally hot topic.

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El esfuerzo que realizó parte de la ciudadanía para conseguir relaciones sociales equitativas y democráticas es un patrimonio ético de esta sociedad. El Gobierno es responsable de garantizar que se transmita y se conozca

RICARD VINYES 07/01/2009

Los Gobiernos que han desarrollado políticas públicas de memoria -pero también buena parte de instituciones y movimientos memoriales- han promovido un modelo canónico fundado y sostenido en un principio imperativo, el deber de memoria, el imperativo de memoria. Un modelo del cual derivan al menos dos consecuencias. Primera, el establecimiento de un relato transmisible único, impermeable en su lógica interna, cartesiano, que el ciudadano tiene el supuesto deber moral de saber y transmitir de manera idéntica a como lo ha recibido, una forma de transmisión propia de cualquier confesión religiosa. No se puede convertir el sufrimiento en un principio de autoridad que sustituya a la razón . El daño causado por una dictadura que hizo de la violencia su primer valor es irreparable
La segunda consecuencia de ese imperativo moral consiste en establecer el daño y sufrimiento generados en el individuo como el activo esencial de la memoria transmisible, su capital y su guión. Sin embargo, el dolor, el sufrimiento, no es un valor, es una experiencia. El dolor causado por el terror de Estado forma parte de la experiencia histórica de los procesos de democratización, y debe ser conocido por la vulneración que significa de los derechos a las personas. Pero situar el dolor generado por el terror de Estado y las dictaduras en el centro de una política pública de memoria conlleva un corolario preocupante: la constitución del sufrimiento en un principio de autoridad sustitutivo de la razón. Deberíamos llamarlo biologismo memorial?
Además, resulta un magnífico instrumento de pacificación para los conflictos entre memorias, puesto que situar en el centro del discurso el sujeto víctima, permite agitar la doctrina de los dos demonios, ahora llamada también "memoria completa", para finalmente practicar la impunidad equitativa, prescindiendo de toda causalidad histórica en una suerte de positivismo del dolor y el daño. Por poner un ejemplo, eso es lo que instaura el capítulo 4 de la Ley de Memoria Histórica al establecer el certificado de víctima. El presidente del Gobierno sintetizó maravillosamente bien, en sede parlamentaria, la utilidad de la víctima: "Recordemos a las víctimas, permitamos que recuperen los derechos que no han tenido y arrojemos al olvido a aquellos que promovieron esa tragedia en nuestro país". Cabe preguntarse de qué derechos fueron privados los miembros de la Brigada Político Social? Tendrá Melitón Manzanas su certificado? Al fin y al cabo fue asesinado por poner en práctica sus ideas.
Considerar la memoria como un deber moral, o considerar el olvido como un imperativo político y civil -como a menudo se nos repite impúdicamente hasta el cansancio- genera un elemento de coerción, pero sobre todo crea un dilema al plantear la opción entre olvido y recuerdo: Es preciso recordar, o es preciso olvidar?
Lo preocupante de ese dilema es que reduce la cuestión a una opción estrictamente individual, y en consecuencia exime de responsabilidad a la Administración, porque la decisión -de olvidar, o de recordar, no importa- queda reducida a la más estricta intimidad por lo que no puede haber actuación pública, tan sólo inhibición. En conclusión, la mejor política pública es la que no existe, una sentencia repetida con arrogancia en los últimos años, precisamente cuando ha aparecido el reclamo de esa política.
Ahora bien, el esfuerzo de una parte de la ciudadanía para conseguir relaciones sociales equitativas y democráticas, los valores de esos procesos de democratización, la práctica violenta de las dictaduras y el terror del Estado para impedirlos, constituyen un patrimonio, el patrimonio ético de la sociedad democrática. El reconocimiento de ese patrimonio y la demanda de transmisión del mismo instituye la memoria democrática, y la constituye en un derecho civil que funda un ámbito de responsabilidad política en el Gobierno: garantizar a los ciudadanos el ejercicio de ese derecho con una política pública de la memoria, no instaurando una memoria pública. La primera, la política pública, debe ser garantista, proteger un derecho y estimular su ejercicio. La segunda, la memoria pública, se construye en el debate político, social y cultural que produce la sociedad en cada coyuntura, y una de las funciones de la política pública es garantizar el acceso de la ciudadanía a la confección de la memoria pública.
Ese derecho civil no está circunscrito a la posibilidad de leer libros espléndidos escritos por nuestros intelectuales desde distintas ramas del saber, ni se limita al conocimiento histórico que se introduce a las escuelas, si bien ambos son sin duda necesarios. Lo que requiere es situar en el espacio público la presencia y el ejercicio de ese derecho, explicitarlo y regularlo, estableciendo como norma primera que hay una línea infranqueable, la que separa democracia y franquismo, democracia y dictadura. Pero ésa es una frontera que a menudo el Estado democrático no ha respetado, creando un modelo de impunidad propio, derivado del particular trayecto cronológico, del ordenamiento jurídico procedente de la amnistía de 1977 y de la evolución política, social y cultural del país, que han vinculado la expresión impunidad a la negativa del Estado de destruir jurídica y políticamente la vigencia legal de los consejos de guerra y sentencias emitidas por los tribunales especiales de la dictadura, además de establecer el criterio de equiparación moral entre sublevados y leales a la Constitución de 1931, o entre servidores y colaboradores de la dictadura con los opositores a ella. Es así que el reclamo contra la impunidad en España observamos que está desprovisto de vocación o voluntad jurídica, y sí tiene en cambio un esencial, conflictivo e incómodo contenido ético-político. Una incomodidad que ha impedido la elaboración de una política pública de reparación integral, memorial y social, puesto que en realidad tan sólo se han decretado leyes y órdenes de beneficios limitados a determinados grupos de afectados, sin más objetivo que mostrar la simetría justa entre víctimas con leyes y dispositivos de alta densidad simbólica.
Una política pública es la combinación de tres elementos: un objetivo, un programa y un instrumento. El objetivo consiste en asumir como patrimonio de la nación los esfuerzos, valores y conflictos que han hecho posible la democratización de la sociedad y sobre los cuales se sostienen sus expresiones institucionales. El programa son las actuaciones diversas destinadas a preservar, estimular y garantizar la transmisión de ese patrimonio. El instrumento es la institución pública que tiene el mandato de garantizar los objetivos, crear el programa y desarrollarlo.
Una política pública de la memoria democrática parte de una afirmación empírica contrastada: el daño causado por la dictadura es irreparable. Nada puede reparar lo sucedido en la esfera individual, social o institucional, porque lo sucedido ha dejado marca y señal por siempre más en cualquiera de los niveles de la sociedad. La afirmación de irreparabilidad, además de ser un dato empírico procedente de distintas disciplinas, constituye un fundamento ético, las consecuencias del cual Primo Levi expresó con extrema claridad. Y la principal de ellas es que frente a lo irreparable el perdón carece de sentido. No lo tiene ni la demanda de perdón por parte del Estado, ni la concesión que pueda hacer la sociedad afectada. No hay nada que perdonar ni nada que vengar. El daño causado por la dictadura de un Estado que hizo de la violencia su primer valor y su práctica permanente, ha tenido unas consecuencias y un legado sencillamente imperdonables, tan sólo puede ser explicado, reconocido y asumido. Y asumir significa establecer una política pública de memoria que garantice a los ciudadanos reconocer el patrimonio democrático que históricamente han generado, y acceder al mismo con garantías.
Ricard Vinyes es profesor de Historia Contemporánea en la Universidad de Barcelona. Su último libro es El daño y la memoria (Plaza Janés).

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Luoshen Appraisal Painting by Gu Kaizhi

Chinese paintingcame a long way during the 300-year period that saw the rise and fall of theThree Kingdoms Period(220-280), theJin Dynasty (265-420)and theNorthern and Southern Dynasties(420-581). Although there was the chaos of wars and many dynastic changes during this period, active
intellectual life of different schools provided a great impetus to artistic development. Well known grotto murals, tomb paintings, stone carvings, brick carvings and lacquer paintings were produced during that period, and a number of virtuosos emerged inChinese calligraphyand painting. Certain
painting theories, such asthe Graphic Theory and the Six Rule Theorythat form the theoretical basis for present-day Chinese painting, were also put forward during this time. Gu Kaizhi, known as the founder of traditional Chinese painting, and his scroll paintings, represented the painting style of
the period.

Gu Kaizhi was born into an official family in Wuxi,Jiangsu Province. He served as a government officer when he was young, and toured many beautiful places. He had a sense of humor, and was also adept at writing poems and essays. Chinese art history abounds in anecdotes about him.

Once atemplewas planned for Jiankang (present-dayNanjing), but the monks and the abbot could not collect enough money for the construction. While they were worrying about the funds to build the temple, a young man came and said he would donate a large amount of money. The abbot did not believe
him, thinking that he was boasting. The young man suggested drawing a picture of the Buddha on a wall and collecting money from those who came to see him at work. For three consecutive days, thousands of people crowded the place to see the young man painting the Buddha. When he finally added the
eye lines, the Buddha seemed to come alive, and the viewers cheered and applauded the young man's artistry. The money needed for the consummate construction of the temple was raised. The young man was Gu Kaizhi.

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Ed with Brenda meet up with been married because nine years. Both show their marriage since gratifying with usually happy, with they pass through the typical ups with downs that innumerable couples face. They report that they allowance a good, pocket sized sex life, and--as in the finish thing relationships--the passion between each other ebbs with flows plus the tides of life.

However, Ed has a covert that weighs heavily on him: He fantasizes about variegated women.

Ed doesn't daydream all the time--just some of the time. But now and then he thinks of variegated mature men (real or imagined) spilt second he makes care to Brenda. He was pleased to go through that it's usual to from long period of time to time daydream about variegated people. And he knows that he doesn't yearn to meet up with an affair, with that numerous of his sexual power is orchestrated toward Brenda.

Should Ed fret that his fantasy life means his marriage is in trouble?

Not necessarily

The role of fantasy in long run relationships:

We are sexual beings with research shows that innumerable folks plus healthy marriages with relationships daydream -- in a healthy way.

Occasional fantasy would in reality improve your sex life. It would boost passion by instilling a soar of eroticism that can troth temporarily lacking in your relationship. So whilst you from long period of time to time fantasize, you're relying on a safe with industrious way to refuel your sexual energy.

You can deem fantasy to beat more or less inhibitions. Fantasy would conduct since a transitory escape delight in the pressures with tasks of life. A very good mind's eye would grant you the opportunity to feel free of charge with enlarge your erotic self.

Some path fantasy to boost self-esteem. Within the tale of your fantasy, you obtain foremost the arena in a way that makes you feel enhanced about yourself. This can clarify why fantasies regularly demand the doting supermodel or motion picture star who cannot get enough of you.

The fantasy danger zone: whilst fantasy replaces intimacy.

Like the finish thing pleasures in life, the path of fantasy would troth overdone. If you think of yourself needing to daydream more regularly than not in ask to turn into aroused or to troth physically near plus your partner, fantasy has replaced reality. You've established a world where variegated folks (real or imagined) meet up with taken the neighborhood of your partner. This level of fantasy indicates that there is trouble in paradise--something is lacking in your marriage or relationship.

There can troth innumerable reasons why you feel the ought to escape delight in your partner through the path of fantasy. Communication drawbacks (you are ineffective to speak your sexual needs with desires) and/or sexual incompatibility are cleanly two feasible explanations.

Back to Ed

So let's bestow Ed our verdict: Because he doesn't conduct on his fantasies, as his fantasies don't interfere plus his day after day life, with as his better half is still the foremost of his erotic with emotional world, Ed's relationship is not threatened by his continual flights into fantasy.

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Ed with Brenda meet up with been married because nine years. Both show their marriage since gratifying with usually happy, with they pass through the typical ups with downs that innumerable couples face. They report that they allowance a good, pocket sized sex life, and--as in the finish thing relationships--the passion between each other ebbs with flows plus the tides of life.

However, Ed has a covert that weighs heavily on him: He fantasizes about variegated women.

Ed doesn't daydream all the time--just some of the time. But now and then he thinks of variegated mature men (real or imagined) spilt second he makes care to Brenda. He was pleased to go through that it's usual to from long period of time to time daydream about variegated people. And he knows that he doesn't yearn to meet up with an affair, with that numerous of his sexual power is orchestrated toward Brenda.

Should Ed fret that his fantasy life means his marriage is in trouble?

Not necessarily

The role of fantasy in long run relationships:

We are sexual beings with research shows that innumerable folks plus healthy marriages with relationships daydream -- in a healthy way.

Occasional fantasy would in reality improve your sex life. It would boost passion by instilling a soar of eroticism that can troth temporarily lacking in your relationship. So whilst you from long period of time to time fantasize, you're relying on a safe with industrious way to refuel your sexual energy.

You can deem fantasy to beat more or less inhibitions. Fantasy would conduct since a transitory escape delight in the pressures with tasks of life. A very good mind's eye would grant you the opportunity to feel free of charge with enlarge your erotic self.

Some path fantasy to boost self-esteem. Within the tale of your fantasy, you obtain foremost the arena in a way that makes you feel enhanced about yourself. This can clarify why fantasies regularly demand the doting supermodel or motion picture star who cannot get enough of you.

The fantasy danger zone: whilst fantasy replaces intimacy.

Like the finish thing pleasures in life, the path of fantasy would troth overdone. If you think of yourself needing to daydream more regularly than not in ask to turn into aroused or to troth physically near plus your partner, fantasy has replaced reality. You've established a world where variegated folks (real or imagined) meet up with taken the neighborhood of your partner. This level of fantasy indicates that there is trouble in paradise--something is lacking in your marriage or relationship.

There can troth innumerable reasons why you feel the ought to escape delight in your partner through the path of fantasy. Communication drawbacks (you are ineffective to speak your sexual needs with desires) and/or sexual incompatibility are cleanly two feasible explanations.

Back to Ed

So let's bestow Ed our verdict: Because he doesn't conduct on his fantasies, as his fantasies don't interfere plus his day after day life, with as his better half is still the foremost of his erotic with emotional world, Ed's relationship is not threatened by his continual flights into fantasy.

To notice course of actions to form a added vibrant relationship, stopover at http://StrengthenYourRelationship.com/ with register because Dr. Nicastro's FREE monthly newsletter. As a bonus, you'll obtain two FREE reports that you would begin by way of right away plus your partner.

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In less than 3 days it'll be 2009 but wait, there's at least 19 great movies from this year that you haven't seen yet! Back by popular demand, it's our second annual list of the 19 best movies that you didn't see in 2008 (see last year's list). Featured below is a hand-picked selection of the best independent and mainstream feature films that were either quietly dumped by studios, ignored by audiences, or just not marketed well enough. So to give these films some extra time in the spotlight, and to support some of the best filmmakers out there, we've put together this year end wrap-up for you. I want to encourage everyone to consider watching just one of these that they haven't heard of (or didn't want to see) beforehand.

If you spent the two hours or so that it would take to watch even one of these movies mentioned below, it would mean that much more to the filmmaker. This isn't about getting kudos for mentioning certain films, this is about pointing out movies that don't deserve to be forgotten and are begging to be watched.

American Teen


Opened on July 25, 2008

Directed by Nanette Burstein

A documentary on seniors at a high school in a small Indiana town and their various cliques.
Why it's on here: At Sundance this year, American Teen became the festival's sleeper hit, fueled by immensely positive buzz coming from everyone who saw it. Despite what you may have heard, it's nothing like "The Hills" and is a fantastic inside look at the life of four American high school teens. If only just to see it once, American Teen is worth your time and money, as Nanette Burstein takes dry documentary storytelling and turns it into something exciting and entertaining.



Australia

Opened on November 26, 2008

Directed by Baz Luhrmann

Set in northern Australia before World War II, an English aristocrat who inherits a sprawling ranch reluctantly pacts with a stock-man in order to protect her new property from a takeover plot. As the pair drive 2,000 head of cattle over unforgiving landscape, they experience the bombing of Darwin, Australia, by Japanese forces firsthand.
Why it's on here: Despite all the talk about how it's not a movie that audiences want to see anymore, it's actually a wonderfully thrilling epic that only the likes of Baz Luhrmann could bring us. Yes, it's really two movies and that's initially hard to get past, but once you do, you'll find yourself being sucked into a sprawling Australian fairy tale lead by a handful of great actors. Even if you're annoyed by the dual stories in the end, I'm certain you'll at least admire the beauty of this great love story.

Baghead

Opened on June 13, 2008

Directed by Jay and Mark Duplass

Four struggling actors retreat to a cabin in California in order to write a screenplay that will make them all stars. What happens when their story idea a horror flick about a group of friends tormented by a villain with a bag over his head starts to come true?

Why it's on here: Sony Picture Classics, who bought this film after its premiere at Sundance, screwed it over badly by dumping it during a crowded summer movie season and not giving it the support it needed. It's a very hard film to sell at first, but all they needed to do was get the right people in the theater. The Duplass Brothers are some of the best up-and-coming flmmakers around that use a refreshingly unique shooting style that plays into Baghead very well. It's a blend of horror and comedy like you've never seen before. You guaranteed to walk out of it with a smile.

Charlie Bartlett

Opened on February 22, 2008

Directed by Jon Poll

A rich kid becomes the self-appointed psychiatrist to the student body of his new high school.
Why it's on here: Wait, you didn't know that Robert Downey Jr. was in more movies this year than just Iron Man and Tropic Thunder? Yep, he was in another one called Charlie Bartlett, and it was a great movie and he did a great job in it. But he's not the only highlight Anton Yelchin, who also plays Chekov in the upcoming Star Trek, was what made this movie so damn good. It's fun and rebellious and a great coming-of-age movie. And in more than one case, Downey Jr. steals the show, especially in a couple scenes at the end involving the pool in his backyard.

Choke

Opened on September 26, 2008

Directed by Clark Gregg

A sex-addicted con-man pays for his mother's hospital bills by playing on the sympathies of those who rescue him from choking to death.

Why it's on here: A devious and fun exercise in adapting the dark musings of the great Chuck Palahniuk, Choke explores the life of a sex addict trying to deal with a mother who is slipping away. With great performances from Sam Rockwell and Brad William Henke combined with twisted humor that can only come from the mind behind Fight Club, Choke is easily one of the most unique and authentically dark comedies of the year. If you dig deviance, this is one you shouldn't let pass by. (Written by Neil of FSR)

City of Ember

Opened on October 10, 2008

Directed by Gil Kenan

For generations, the people of the City of Ember have flourished in an amazing world of glittering lights. But Ember's once powerful generator is failing and the great lamps that illuminate the city are starting to flicker.

Why it's on here: City of Ember was one of the biggest flops this year next to Speed Racer (which is on this list, too). Before it first hit theaters, I really didn't care that much about it. But I eventually saw it and was completely surprised. It reminded me of the kind of movies that I used to love as a kid, just full of wonderment and excitement. As long as you recognize that it is a kid's movie and not much more, it should be easy to sit back and enjoy this adventure just as much as I did.

The Escapist

Not Released in Theaters Yet

Directed by Rupert Wyatt

Frank Perry is an institutionalized convict twelve years into a life sentence without parole. When his estranged daughter falls ill, he is determined he make peace with her before it's too late. He develops an ingenious escape plan, and recruits a dysfunctional band of escapists misfits with a mutual dislike for one other but united by their desire to escape their hell hole of an existence.

Why it's on here: It was my favorite film from Sundance this year and could've been my favorite film of the entire year if it had ever actually been released in theaters. THINKFilm picked it up at Sundance but that company went under part of the way through the year, so it never hit theaters. It was in theaters in June in the UK and will be out on DVD over there in January. This is one of the best films that no one has ever heard of. It's one of the most intense and thrilling modern escape movies ever made, and that's a huge compliment!

The Fall

Opened on May 9, 2008

Directed by Tarsem Singh

In a hospital on the outskirts of 1920s Los Angeles, an injured stuntman begins to tell a fellow patient, a little girl with a broken arm, a fantastical story about 5 mythical heroes. Thanks to his fractured state of mind and her vivid imagination, the line between fiction and reality starts to blur as the tale advances.

Why it's on here: This beautiful film took two years to finally hit theaters after premiering at a film fest in 2006. Although a couple of people caught it during its theatrical run, The Fall never turned into a hit despite glowing reviews. I was even surprised to find myself enjoying it, especially because the trailers didn't seem all that interesting. What you'll discover is a gorgeous historic epic built around an ensemble of great performances. The Fall was worth the two year wait to see in theaters and shouldn't be quickly forgotten.

Hamlet 2

Opened on August 22, 2008

Directed by Andrew Fleming

In this irreverent comedy, a failed actor-turned-worse-high-school-drama-teacher rallies his Tucson, Arizona students as he conceives and stages politically incorrect musical sequel to Shakespeare's Hamlet.

Why it's on here: Whereas Choke was the quintessential dark comedy of the year, Hamlet 2 is the quintessential absurd comedy of the year. Steve Coogan shines like a young Gene Wilder as the whacky drama teacher that just about everyone had in high school. The story benefits from the smart and biting comedic mind of Pam Brady, who co-wrote the South Park movie. You'll get heavy doses of silliness, big scoops of absurdity and one giant musical interlude set to "Rock Me Sexy Jesus." What could possibly be better than that? (Written by Neil of FSR)

Let the Right One In

Opened on October 24, 2008

Directed by Tomas Alfredson

Oscar, an overlooked and bullied boy, finds love and revenge through Eli, a beautiful but peculiar girl who turns out to be a vampire.

Why it's on here: We've already talked extensively about why Let the Right One In is such a phenomenal film. But for those that don't know about it just yet, it's one of the best horror movies in the last few years and is the very best vampire movie since Interview with the Vampire in 1994. Although it's already getting a lot of exposure from fellow critics, most of whom are calling it their favorite movie of the year, it still didn't spread wide enough to be called a hit, so I'm putting it on here to give it even more of the exposure that it deserves.

Man on Wire

Opened on July 25, 2008

Directed by James Marsh

A look at tightrope walker Philippe Petit's daring, but illegal, high-wire routine performed between New York City's World Trade Center's twin towers in 1974, what some consider, "the artistic crime of the century."

Why it's on here: Every year there seems to be a documentary that transcends educational value and historical relevance and becomes something more, something deeply entertaining and alive with intensity. Last year it was the underdog story of The King of Kong. This year it is the daring tale of Philippe Petit. And while his accomplishment is the crown jewel of the film, it is Petit's engaging nature as a subject that makes Man on Wire one of the most exciting and riveting films of the year. It packs as much drama as you might see in a movie like The Dark Knight or Iron Man and it is based on something that really happened. It doesn't get more impressive than that. (Written by Neil of FSR)

Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist

Opened on October 3, 2008
Directed by Peter Sollett

High school student Nick O'Leary, member of the Queercore band The Jerk Offs, meets college-bound Norah Silverberg and she asks him to be her boyfriend for five minutes.
Why it's on here: Before I even saw this, I was expecting it to be the next Superbad or Garden State. Then I saw it and thought it could actually achieve that level of success. Not only was it fun (and funny), but it had a sweet side to it that made it more than just the typical teenage comedy. It may have not been the best comedy of the year or even as good as Superbad or garden State, but considering it is at least better than most other stupid teenage comedies, it deserves a bigger audience than it got in October. The charming Kat Dennings is at her best in it, as is Michael Cera.

Ping Pong Playa


Opened on September 5, 2008

Directed by Jessica Yu

A kid dreams of playing professional basketball in order to escape his dead-end job, living in the suburbs, his bossy older brother and running his Mom's ping pong classes.

Why it's on here: Easily the funniest movie of the last two years. I first saw it at the Toronto Film Festival last year and in turn called it the Best of the Fest. It eventually hit theaters earlier this year, but barely anyone knew it even existed. It was sad to see it go unnoticed because not only does its lead actor, Jimmy Tsai, and its director, Jessica Yu, deserve plenty of praise for their skills, but it is literally one of the funniest movies I've ever seen. As I said in my review, screw Balls of Fury, "Ping Pong Playa is the ping pong movie that should be in the spotlight!"

The Promotion

Opened on June 6, 2008

Directed by Steve Conrad

Two assistant managers of a corporate grocery store vie for a coveted promotion.
Why it's on here: Yet another hilarious comedy that I discovered at a film festival (SXSW in March). I'm not normally a fan of John C. Reilly or Seann William Scott, but both of them gave extraordinary comedic performances to make this an all-around gem of a comedy. It's unfortunate that this didn't catch on because it has so many hilarious moments that really stand out. It's one of those refreshingly different kind of independent comedies that no one knows about; but you'll be grinning when your friends come gawking to you about it years later because by then you'll have already memorized it all by heart.




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Son of Rambow

Opened on May 2, 2008

Directed by Garth Jennings

During a long English summer in the early 1980s, two schoolboys from differing backgrounds set out to make a film inspired by Rambo: First Blood

Why it's on here: From the writer/director that brought us The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy comes one of the most heartwarming, unique little indie films of the year. The story of two friends from different sides of town (and religions) and their desire to make their own Rambo movie in the 1980s might sound simple, but it is loaded with layers that have an undeniable heartwarming effect. A story of friendship, acceptance and religious persecution, Son of Rambow is one of the most clever stories released in theaters this year. (Written by Neil of FSR)


Speed Racer

Opened on May 9, 2008

Directed by Larry and Andy Wachowski

Follows the adventures of Speed Racer, a young race car driver who sits behind the wheel of the lightning-fast Mach 5 racecar. Aided by his family and his devoted girlfriend, Speed racks up victory after victory, but still lives in the shadow of his late older brother, Rex. When Speed garners the wrath of Royalton Industries, he must team up with the enigmatic Racer X to defeat the ruthless corporation.

Why it's on here: I don't care what all the critics said about it I loved this movie! And as more and more people are starting to finally watch this of their own volition, they're finding it to be way more entertaining than they were expecting. It's a kids movie at its heart but it's also infused with the Wachowski's one-of-a-kind stunning visuals and energy. It was killed by some early bad buzz but deserved much better. If you can get that bad buzz out of your head, a few of you might actually enjoy this in the end. At least give it a chance!


Taken

Not Released in Theaters Yet

Directed by Pierre Morel

A former spy relies on his old skills to save his estranged daughter, who has been forced into the slave trade.
Why it's on here: I already recently wrote about my feelings on Fox screwing over Taken, so I'm adding it here to emphasize to everyone (and Fox) again that they really did make a big mistake in delaying it. We should've all seen Taken already, as it was originally scheduled to be in theaters in September, but for reasons that still baffle me, Fox pushed it all the way to January. It couldn't be more fitting to include Taken on this list, considering it really is one of the best movies of the year that no one saw thanks to idiotic studio decisions.

The Wackness

Opened on July 3, 2008

Directed by Jonathan Levine

Set against this backdrop of New York City in 1994, a lonely teenager named Luke Shapiro spends his last summer before university selling marijuana throughout the city, trading it with his unorthodox psychotherapist for treatment, and falling in love with his stepdaughter.
Why it's on here: In addition to American Teen, this is one film that came out of Sundance this year with a whole lot of buzz. But yet again, Sony Pictures Classics buried it with a terrible release date and a series of poorly made trailers. Even if it had trouble finding the right audience, I'm assuring everyone that this still is one of the best movies of the year. While I've thrown around that phrase a lot, I really mean it this time, especially because its been on my mind constantly as I've starting to thinking back over this year. Do yourself a huge favor and catch this as soon as you can!

Young People Fucking

Opened on August 29, 2008

Directed by Martin Gero

A smart and fast-paced comedy that intertwines the stories of 5 couples over the course of one sexual encounter. As the couples attempt to have some seemingly straight forward sex, they run into all sorts of problems.
Why it's on here: I first encountered this gem at the Toronto Film Festival last year, but it didn't hit theaters until this year. Maybe it was its uncensored title that fucked it over (pun intended), but let me tell you, Young People Fucking is one of the funniest no-holds-barred sex comedies ever made. It has a very independent and personal feel to it, but that's what makes it so damn good. Even if it's just to find out what he said, Young People Fucking is definitely worth watching, especially with a significant other.

I hope I've been able to introduce everyone to a few more great must-see movies that they've never seen. Not everyone will love all of them, but I guarantee there is something unique to discover in every last one. Support an indie filmmaker today and watch one of these 19.

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The sex ratio is very simple word mean number ratio between males and females of any country or state. It is very vital statistics of any census report, because on this statistics whole of family planning other applied planning of any country or state is depended. If it reflexes wrong or misinterpretation of any core statistics, how devastating it can be one can easily understand.

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Having spent so many years in China, I've learned to expect and accept one thing: the fact that no matter where I go, I will always be cheated and lied to. It's just a fact, kind of like the fact that the earth is round; and to accept it rather than hate it is a necessary tool to survival in Asia.

I don't mind being lied to. What's one or two dollars more? I probably earn more money than the guy selling me fruits and vegetables anyway, and the extra money that I pay will probably go towards buying his kids clothes and toys- and I am always an advocate of helping other people.

Today though, I almost got seriously cheated. I'm not talking one or two dollars, I'm talking thousands. My family and I are on vacation right now in Sanya- the last Miss Universe was held here, just in case you don't know where it is. We were starved and looking foward to having some delicious seafood for dinner, and stopped by this place that was kind of like an outdoor seafood market- it looked awesome, and the owner of the restaurant had spent so much time persuading us to dine there, that we decided to sit down.

But before I continue with this post, it's important I tell you that in China, fish and shellfish are alive, and in tanks; and are only killed when they are to be eaten.

Anyway, my parents went to pick out the food, and in the process of weighing my dad came to sit down at the table with me and my brother. My mother came shortly afterwards and said, "We can't eat here. They are charging us a ridiculous amount". Apparently the people at the restaurant had lied to us about how much the seafood weighed. Having shopped at fish markets for 6 years, we were well aware of how much everything weighed, relatively at least. The cuttlefish was undoubtedly less than 1kg, and for some reason we were being charged 3kg; the crab was 1.5kg, and we were being charged 4kg; etc. It came to a total of 3000rmb. Now, we don't have a problem paying 3000rmb, but when it's 3000rmb for food that's not worth 3000rmb, we're unhappy; so we said, fuck this- and told them we weren't going to eat there. The owner told us that we had no choice because the food had already been killed- which is illegal because we didn't give them the final thumbs up after the weighing; something about "sealing the contract". The fish guy had taken the fish out of the tank, and killed it immediately after it surfaced water, which led us to believe that the fish was, in fact, dead already- which Asian people frown upon.

The owner of the restaurant, a bunch of waiters, and the fish butcher guy came out and told us that what we were doing was not okay, and that we had pay for the food. We told them that we didn't have a problem paying a little extra for food, but the fact that they had charged us about 1500rmb more than what it was worth was not alright by us, and there was no way we would stand for that. They were so pissed, and at one point, the fish guy grabbed my dad's arm, and looked like he was about to punch him, but my brother stepped in and was like, 'hey, the fuck you think you're doing?', while my mother called the cops. If she did, they would have all been arrested, and their restaurant would have had to close down; and they knew it too. He told my mother to fuck herself, and it looked like a fight was about to begin right then and there, but no. They walked away. They would have been screwed, and they knew.

It bothers me to no end that people find it necessary to lie like that just to earn a couple extra dollars. Seriously, did you think we were just born yesterday? Asshole. They ruined my not only my meal, but made me seriously doubt the overall honesty of my own people. The corruption and lies that build the foundation of this country will never cease to amaze me.

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